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do people have to be so rude?

We took the kids to work today and while there some ladies told me "oh look at you? What happened? You used to be so skinny?" Than they started talking to each other "don't you remember her, when she was on this line... she was tall and skinny?"

Thankfully I had the kids with me otherwise I think I would of gone to the bathroom and cried.?

Re: do people have to be so rude?

  • That's horrible!  I'm so sorry to hear they were so rude!!  I swear...people need to THINK before they SPEAK! 
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  • What a stupid b!tch! You should have said, "and you used to be nice, what happened to you? I had kids, I have an excuse for a little weight gain, you stupid b!" But ya know, I can be an angry little elf sometimes.

    P.S. you are gorgeous, dont listen to that idiot!

  • Thats so rude and definitely not something you say to people!

    Tif - I love the comeback, I'm so terrible on my feet with things like that and I wish I was better about it. 

  • Wow- talk about no tact!  Geez.

    I went to an old employer once to pick up some paperwork and had gained about 20 lbs in 2 years due to a car accident and some wonderful medication- and the first thing the secretary said to me was "Wow, married life has been good to you- how much have you gained?" - I then told her I blew a couple of discs in my back and she stopped right in her tracks. 

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    We took the kids to work today and while there some ladies told me "oh look at you? What happened? You used to be so skinny?" Than they started talking to each other "don't you remember her, when she was on this line... she was tall and skinny?"

    Thankfully I had the kids with me otherwise I think I would of gone to the bathroom and cried. 

     

    What! You can't be serious. That is so incredibly thoughtless. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. 

  • To answer your question, no. They don't have to be rude. They chose to be. I am so sorry. I can't imagine why on Earth somebody would comment on a new Mom's weight. I think you look great.

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    What a stupid b!tch! You should have said, "and you used to be nice, what happened to you? I had kids, I have an excuse for a little weight gain, you stupid b!"

    This. What b!tches!

  • OMG  that is the worst thing I've ever heard!!! I would have made some rude comment about her too, like her hair or nose or something.  Then I would have karate chopped her in the throat!!!
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    OMG  that is the worst thing I've ever heard!!! I would have made some rude comment about her too, like her hair or nose or something.  Then I would have karate chopped her in the throat!!!

    That sounds like it would have been more fun than just a comment! Lol

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  • I would have strangled them!!!Angry
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    I would have strangled them!!!Angry

    or this.  Its a toss up, I think.  Karate chop, strangle, karate chop, strangle.  hmmmm the possibilities....

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  • I think she was looking at little chubs Joaquin. That boy can pack some lbs!

     

    *hugs* 

  • Thanks ladies. I know it shouldn't bug me so much but I am already so self?conscious?of all the weight I've gained. I have to admit one of the reasons I am dreading going back to work is how I look. I only have one pair of pants that fit and I hate looking at that size. And none of my shirts fit so I have been wearing DH's old shirts.

    I think I just need to get off my a** and actually do something about this junk in my trunk.

  • They are biitches. I'm sorry =( 
  • Tiff's comeback is 10x better than anything I could come up with but I'm sorry they said that to you.

    I haven't lost my baby weight yet either so I feel ya.

    xo's

  • WTF? Why would anyone think it was ok to say something like that. How rude.
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