So when we had Joshua, most people were super excited about our little boy and showered him with gifts and attention, except my mom, she seemed excited but she never flew out here to see him after he was born and never even sent him anything when he was born. I know it is not about the gifts but the rest of our families were so excited they wanted to do so much for him/us and we really appreciated it. The moment we told MIL I was pg with J she said Congratulations, gave us a huge hug and said "I am buying your stroller". We were so grateful, all of our other parents/ grandparents same thing. My mom's ex even sent something for J for the Christmas before he was born, yet my mom sent nothing nor did she come and see him. In fact she didn't see him until the October after he was born when I flew down there to see her and have since brought him back two more times and still no visit out here (she hasn't only been to see me once in the 9 years that I lived here.
Anyways, now that we know we are having a girl, my mom is so excited, going shopping and planning on spoiling her and is planning on coming for a visit. She wants to be here in September but I told her she had to wait until November. DH is in school (for 8 weeks) starting in September and my mom drives him crazy (me as well). She isn't happy that I told her to wait so long but I want time as a family first. Anyways, I know that J won't know but I feel like he is less important to her and she is way more excited about having a granddaughter. J is my favourite little man and I just am hurt that my mom is already not treating them equally.
I will say my dad/stepmother and MIL on the other hand are just as excited for this Abby as they were for J, MIL has already bought us another stroller (it's her thing!) she loves being a grandmother and is making up for all the things that her parents weren't able to do with DH because they were too sick.
Anyways, just needed to get that off my chest because it has been bothering me. Thanks