I'm having a really hard time with life in general lately. I want to go to counseling, but I've tried before and never had any success finding someone that I liked. The first counselor just stared at me for an hour. I felt like there was no direction and he was not interested. Maybe professional burnout on his part or something. Went to him for two months...got nothing. Second counselor was a worse mess than I am. I think I ended up counseling her and she was very unprofessional. She was going through a divorce because her DH was a gambling addict and spent their life savings without her knowledge. See...why the F do I know that and so much more? Two months there also. Third counselor had some sort of weird transference thing going on and got creepy on me. He would tell me I was too pretty to be upset about <insert here>, made comments about my body, and would try to change my educational choices to what he liked. Plus, he was always a least 30-45 mins late, which drove me crazy. Six months there. The last one helped some, so I guess I'm making progress. lol.
I have a strong personality, so I need someone that will take charge/control of the session (actually, ME). I don't want someone to just listen to me either. I would like feedback from them. It would also really help if they were professional. How do I find a good therapist without wasting 1-2 months trying to figure out if they will be helpful or not? TIA.