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Alright Lame...but I am curious.

When did you first say "I love you" to your SO?  How long had you been together?  Did you know it but wait to tell them?

 No real back story, just looking for general imput from others.

 

Re: Alright Lame...but I am curious.

  • Actually, it was only a few weeks.

    We started dating and really connected and two weeks or so afterward, he went to visit him mom and stepdad, who were working in Alaska at the time. Internet and cell connectivity were spotty. He was gone about a week and a half and I really, really missed him. (I know, kind of sappy.)

    When he came back, he made me dinner at his place and afterwards he said that he could really see us getting married. (Obviously, we didn't get engaged until later.)

    So, I blurted out that I was in love with him.

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  • MAybe 2 months into  it??  We had been friends for about 7 years prior and I knew he was a great guy so everything was kinda fast-tracked with us.  Engaged after 6 months, married 9 months later and PG 6 months after that.
  • About 2 months in. I didn't want to say it first but I hinted. Then one day he was like "I love you more than anything." And I smiled and said it back.
  • For me about 2 months in.  Although I didn't say it first, after he said it then I was comfortable enough to say it back.

  • Because we areyounger, it took a little bit longer forus to really feel love. I knew and told him I loved him after about 5 months. But now I know the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Thre s a different felling when I tell him now
  • well....

     

    He said it to me after 3 months. i told him I wasn't ready to say it back. That led to the slow demise/fizzle and we broke up about a month later. Fast forward 7 months. We started dating again. A month into it, we said it.

     

    So it was about 1 year after we first started dating.

  • It was about 4 months into the relationship. I planned to say it first, but he beat me to it. :]
  • He said it to m about 3 weeks in, but I'd been in a few Really bad relationships and wanted to make sure of how I felt. ?He knew the situation and always let me know he loved me, until about 2 months in I was finally able to say it myself :-)
  • Well, we both started hinting that we were wanting to say it by date three, but we held back until about 2 or 3 weeks in. 1.5 years later we're engaged, 9 months later married. (no babies yet!)
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  • Honestly, it was only after about 3 weeks. I just knew. And after a date, when he kissed me goodbye at my front door, the words just kind of slipped out. It wasn't planned...I just said it.

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  • I think it was about 4 weeks. 
  • 3 months after we met. He hinted and kind of wrote it in a letter first, I said it.

  • He said it to me first but I said it back right away. It was fast, about three weeks after we met. We got engaged 13 months after we met, and married a year after that.
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  • I know I said it first although I can't remember how soon into the relationship I blurted it out - it was very unplanned and I probably shouldn't have said it that early.  My best guess would be right around a month.  But at that point we had already been very good friends for about 6 months and lived/worked with one another (we worked for our college over the summer and they provided housing so our apartments were next door to one another) so I had known I loved him long before I ever said it.  He said it immediately back, but I'm pretty sure I caught him off guard.
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  • We had our first date in late May or early June.  I told him over the 4th of July weekend.  We went to Apple River Wisocnsin  (a big drinkfest) we were playing in the pool at the the campsite and I just said it as soon as I thought it.  I KNEW he would not say it back to me, and made the disclaimer right after I said it to him.  He responded with "You make me want to be a better man."  I have no idea when he actually said "I love you" to me though, for some reason i was strangely secure that he did.
  • It was about a month.  I realized I loved him about a week and a half before that, but I was afraid he'd get scared and want out of the relationship.  So I waited and then he wrote "I love you" in my birthday card a few weeks later.  We'd been together a few days shy of a month.  We talked about it later and he said that he had felt it earlier too and just didn't want to freak me out.
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  • February 28th 1999. I was 15, he was 16. We'd been dating for two months and he'd already said, "I love you." I kept telling him that I didn't want to say it until I was ready. For some odd reason, I had this ridiculous feeling come over me while we were laying on my couch that day, watching "Happy Gilmore" (of all movies!). I looked up at him and told him I was falling in love with him :) 

    I know this is lame...but ten years later, we still watch Happy Gilmore every February 28th!
     

  • about 3 months I knew it about 2 weeks before then and i hinted but he didn't want me to say it until we were face to face we were both nervous about it and he said it first that same night
  • Must have been 4-5 months in. I told him one night that I loved him, and he said, "I don't know if I'm quite there yet." LOL he was really scared when he said that- shaky voice and everything. I think he was waiting for the waterworks (or the fireworks).

    I said, "I didn't say it because I wanted to hear it back from you- I said it because I feel it and I wanted you to know."

    A month or so later (6 months into the relationship, I think), we were falling asleep and he said it. The cool part was that he said it on his own- so I knew he meant it. He didn't just say it in response to me when I said it, or when he was under pressure to say it, so I never wondered if he just said it because I did.?
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    February 28th 1999. I was 15, he was 16. We'd been dating for two months and he'd already said, "I love you." I kept telling him that I didn't want to say it until I was ready. For some odd reason, I had this ridiculous feeling come over me while we were laying on my couch that day, watching "Happy Gilmore" (of all movies!). I looked up at him and told him I was falling in love with him :) 

    I know this is lame...but ten years later, we still watch Happy Gilmore every February 28th!
     

    I think that's adorable!

  • super silly of me to post this...i cannot remember the first time exactly. all i remember was it was over the phone, very random and we didn't really even realize we said it until later on.

    we're best friends, like the closest we have been to anyone in our lives. we have played "boyfriend and girlfriend" for almost 7 months now. he asked me to be his girlfriend this morning...heh. i suppose my love for him has always been there. it got magnified when we started becoming more then "just friends". our "I love you."s are never the "I am in love with you." we promised one another to say it until we are definitely sure that is how we truly feel. so ours are more like "I love you for you and not the idea of you. Let's go get tacos! :D" strangely we are comfortable and happy like that for now.

  • We were only together about a month when he said the magic words. I was sort of leary and didn't say them back right away. It was really cool how he respected my feelings. He told me every day that he loved me, but he would say it in a way that was just telling me and it never made me feel like I was obligated to say it back. Now when he tells me I smile at him and reply "I know." It's become a thnig. I love it... and him!

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