I've just (literally just in the last few hours) come to the realization that I am in an emotionally abusive relationship. It is by no means severe. My husband does not try to control everything I do or anything of that nature. It mainly comes down to him being unavailable emotionally, invalidating, and turning things around on me so that he doesn't have to take responsibility for anything he does. I've been in individual therapy for over a year and we have going to couples for about 2 months. I do plan to bring this up in therapy, but I needed to get some thoughts here in the moment.
Honestly, our relationship has gotten better since being in therapy, and I honestly don't think my husband /intends/ on being abusive. He just really doesn't have the introspection or awareness to understand his own actions. Not that that means I deserve it or that its okay. I just wanted some outside thoughts. Thanks.