My husband and I have been married for 3 years, dating for 4 before that with no children. We have what I would consider a semi-happy marriage (not amazing, but not bad enough to leave) and while I am the type to want to continue growing and enriching and working on our marriage, my husband is more of the type that likes things just the way they are. We have a hard time communicating and when I suggested counseling to work on our marriage together, he said no and that we should wait until it's worse (which makes no sense to me). I like to be involved and busy (with a sense of purpose, per se) and my husband would love nothing more than for me to spend all my time at home with him (which is fine too, but that's not my personality and never has been). I know he loves me, but he tends to be overly critical, a bit negative and we just don't seem to have fun together anymore. I'm hesitant about attending weddings and social events with him because he doesn't want to talk to anyone (and spends 99% of his time on his phone - another pet peeve) and there have been more than 1 occasions where he has gotten drunk and gotten into really mean, pointless arguments with the me (the kind that make no sense and you end up staying up till 3am screaming at each other ).
The reason I am here now is because I am contemplating divorce. I met someone else who has turned my world upside down and made me wonder if there is something better out there? this new guy brings me to the title of this post, could we be meant to be? We hit it off instantly, are on the same page about so many things and he is so happy that I have my own hobbies. (he's incredibly supportive and driven - like me) The weirdest part of meeting this new person is that we somehow got to the discussion of children's names and he said he loved the name "Blake" for a girl. No big deal, except that is my favorite name as well and only like 2-3 people know that. Just a very weird thing to come up. We've also ended up saying the exact same things or coincidentally ended up in the same spots at the same time. This is someone I could see myself growing with, challenging each other, and having fun.
am I crazy? I haven't talked to anyone in my personal life about this yet and it is eating me up inside. I'm not yet 30 and I have no children so while I think things would get messy, I also think that now's the time if I'm going to make any changes in my life. I don't want to live my life wondering what could have been.