I just wanted to get some insight on a little situation I'm in.
Preface: A year ago i would drop everything and go to my friend's aid, but have been in therapy for a year and the therapist has emphasized that I shouldn't enable people or let others take advantage of my "helpful, others first" personality.
I'm in grad school. A couple of friend are on an intramural team and they had a game tonight. Before leaving class another friend let the classmates know that there would be check points tonight so they shouldn't drink. I feel VERY strongly about drinking and driving, as I've had childhood friends killed and seriously injured by drunk drivers. I pipped up and said "you shouldn't be drinking and driving any way!!" like i ALWAYS say to them. Our city just got Uber, so there really isn't any excuse.
So, just now, as I'm getting ready to go to sleep b/c we have class in the morning, I get a text that they are "shit faced and there are check points" .
... how terrible am I for ignoring it? Should I go pick them up? Why can't they get an uber? I've only known these ppl for a couple months, but I don't want them thinking that I will go out of why way to save them from their bad decisions (this is grad school... we are talking 25-30 year olds, not teenagers!)... I also don't want them to get hurt or to hurt someone else.
Where is the line between being a good friend, and enabling someones childish/poor choices?