I don't know where else to turn and hope I can get some advice from here. My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have a 8 year old daughter. My MIL passed away about 6 years ago. 2 years ago my FIL moved in with us. It was not because he had falling health or was unable to take care of himself, he said it was because he did not want to miss out daughter growing up. We live in Indiana and he lived in NY. He has 2 other children, a daughter that lived 20 minutes from him and a son in NC. I have since realized the real reason is because he wants someone to do all his cooking and cleaning up after him. He spends no time with our daughter. Our daughter has pointed out on several occasions that Her grandpa never wants to do anything except sit around and watch TV. He does not contribute to the household what so ever and to make matters worse, he just purchased a $30,000 truck and paid cash! But does not help us with bills. He is constantly leaving lights in around the house, eating all our food and taking 30 minute showers. When I approach him about these things, he is quick to belittle me and say "yep, and I'm not going to help either" my husband constantly sides with him and tests him as if he's his child, more so than our own daughter! I have see my FIL in my husband more and more everyday. He just sits around, watched TV and spends no quality time with our daughter. He is quick to yell and curse at me, to the point of putting her in tears. She has even been to the counsler at school for crying in class. Her dad does not see this as an issue and instead of talking to her or apologizeing, he does nothing. I feel as if it is me and her against him and his dad! To make matters worse, there is so much turmoil in this house, that her friends don't want to come around anymore. Who wants to come over when you can be guaranteed that there will be some cursing in this house! I try to make her life as good as I can. I have become room parent and a Girl Scout leader and try to do fun things with her on a regular basis. Of course, she knows this is not the way it's suppose to be. As far as my FIL, I have begged him to go and visit one of children for a couple of months to give us some alone time, and he refuses. He states that his son has too much of a busy life with the kids and always wants to drag him along and his daughter drives him crazy (lol, like he drives me). I get no respect! We have a new home and he treats it with no respect either! Oh I could go on and on!