My mother has been estranged from me since May 2014 and my grandmother (my mom's mom) wants me to still get her something for her upcoming birthday even though she missed mine. I was going to get her a spa package because I (& my grandmother) wanted to give her something that only she can use (not her boyfriend & not his granddaughter), but supposedly her BF already gave her a trip to the spa as an early birthday present. BTW - I don't think he actually did given his track record with her past birthdays. So now I don't want to give her the spa package gift because she'll think I'm copying him or something like that......... what do I get her now?
My last resort is sending her flowers.