My father-in-law was diagnosed a couple months ago with Stage IV non-Hodgkins lymphoma. My husband seems to be handling it better than I am, somehow--I'm a high-strung person in the first place, and I've been an emotional wreck ever since we found out. He has his moments where he feels like everything is crashing down around him but mostly he's pretty good at viewing things in a realistic and practical way, and I'm really proud of him for how he's handling things.
The doctor says it's incurable. He's responding pretty well to the chemo but the doctor still doesn't think he'll ever see remission. He says it's "just a matter of time," but that how MUCH time is up in the air right now.
I guess I'm mostly just venting, but I also need help. How do I be there for my husband? What do you DO in this situation? It's even harder because his family lives so far away--we're in Minnesota and they're in Ohio--and I know the distance and not being able to physically be there for his family is hard on him. I want to support him and help him through this--especially if or when the worst happens--but I don't know what to do. Especially since I'm torn up over it too--I've only known him for five years, but I love my husband's family almost as much as my own and I'm so scared of losing my father-in-law. I'm scared that I won't be able to be there for my husband if I'm so emotionally wrecked myself.
Again, mostly just venting, but if anyone has any words of advice or comfort they would be appreciated.
Also, does anyone know if there is any kind of precautionary screening a person can get for lymphoma to help detect it early? Because my father-in-law is the fourth man in my husband's family to have it and my husband is understandably concerned about his own health. Maybe that's a dumb question but it's something we'd like to look into if possible.