I need some feedback. I have been in a relationship with the same man for 8 years. We met while we were both in college. I am currently at a place in my life where I feel our relationship is stagnate, especially since I feel that my boyfriend is depending on me too much. My boyfriend is in a tough field where it is all about location to find a position. Ever since he graduated from college he has only held a position in his field for 2 years. He lost his job two years ago and I allowed for him to stay at my residence during my last year in grad school in 2013. When I graduated, I was offered a position with great opportunities but not an ideal location. However, i still allowed for him to move in with me. I told him we needed to search simultaneously during that time but he did not succeed in finding a position in employers that were interested in my candidacy. I am currently looking to advance and move to another position at another location, however, I don't think I will allow for him to move with me. That may signal the end of our relationship. Am I wrong for feeling this way? He currently contributes a bit by working a fast food job. He also has a passion to get in the music industry, but it has been so difficult to support him this long when I feel like I am being heavily depended on by a person who does not want to make an effort to at least find a job that will help himself. I often end up buying most groceries as well sometimes covering payments for a car of his that is in collections in addition to my own bills. Luckily the position I have allows me to live rent free...the main reason why I allowed for him to move in with me in the first place. On top of this...I don't feel like being sexually active because I want to be able to make sure that we can hold off on conception while I feel we are not financially ready to have such a life opportunity happen at this moment. Just wanting some honest feedback because my family already has given me advice on what they believe I should do but ultimately understand it is my life choice. Anyone who has been in a similar position?