Ladies, how on earth do you deal with family drama around splitting the holidays?
Our plan this year was to spend Thanksgiving with my fiancée's family, and Christmas with mine. Reasonable enough, right? A couple days ago my fiancée asked if we could go to his family's house (two hours away) for Christmas Eve dinner, which is a big deal for his family. His dad has cancer and he doesn't see his family very often, so I thought that was a reasonable request. We would still be home for Christmas morning with my family.
I mentioned this to my mom, and she got upset that we wouldn't be around for Christmas Eve, saying that we had told her we would be home. She also said that she had wanted to go to Christmas Eve mass with our family to honor my dad, who passed away earlier this year.
I feel like I'm losing my mind trying to keep everyone happy and avoid arguments with my fiancée and my mom. Help!