So my husband and I have share a best friend. He stated out more my friend but has grown to be part of our family. We all are very honest with each other and know what is said is never to be mean. I honestly value this person a great deal. I will be having my first child in May and he has been so supportive. My issue is his girlfriend of 2 years started of pretty cool. Laid back, did her own thing but also joined us when we all hung out. I even shared some one on one time with her. However the last year their relationship grew toxic. She read his phone and found a text that was honestly inappropriate with another women, whom we all knew. This took place at a bbq at my home. She through a huge scene, I mean screaming so loud my neighbors came out. No matter how much My husband and I begged them to either leave or come inside they just kept fighting. My friend did his best, but the girl wanted everyone to be a part of the fight. This sadly was the start of a horrible trend. Every time we were all together she found something to scream about and usually it took place in my yard. I became very disgusted by her behavior. She chooses to stay and he chooses to put up with it. It stated affecting our friendship. I couldn’t stand how much he lied to her, and hated she was so desperate to keep him that she put up with the lies.
Finally last month I had a party for my husband’s birthday, his last before we have a kid. I made a friend feast and bought booze. I knew she had gone to a funeral, not of anyone she was close to, but I knew she would already be in a mood. I asked my friend to not bring her if he thought she couldn't behave and let the night be about my husband. He spoke with her and she was going to behave. Needless to say she got sloshed, as always, and started removing some of her clothes and even wiggled her tits at my husband. I looked right at her and said are freaking serious. She smile said yes and did it again. I was livid, I already thought this girl was a hot mess, now add a disrespectful one. I told her boyfriend to take her and go before I slapped her and tossed her on her butt. I waited a week before I had her over to talk adult to adult. However she made up excuses after excuse. She even went as far as saying I was judging everything about her and made feel un welcomed. I explained a million times that I have every right to be mad, she showed her chest to a married man, who honestly hates her, and continues to start fights in my house with her boyfriend. I said what they do in private is their business but in my home that behavior is not welcomed and won’t be tolerated.
She ran out, crying to my best friend that I tossed her out, wouldn't let her explain, and basically was a bully. My friend knew better and got the facts from me before hand. They fought and fought. He swore they were done this time. Well now they are about to move in together. I honestly am at a loss for words. He has spent a year telling everyone she is never going to be his wife, he would ask for an abortion if she got pregnant, lies to her, talks bad about her, and is always wanting to breakup. I told him he is like family but he has to either be in the relationship or do them both a favor and really end it. Now we see him, not as often, but don’t have to deal with her. This is pretty much fine with me. However, it seems so insane he would want to live this way. It’s a side of him I really don’t know how to handle. He is our best friend, family, and we are just going to go on disliking this women, how does that work? I don’t think he should break up with her because we hate her, that’s insane, but again if he sees the crazy, admits it’s crazy, why stay.
He comes to us and vents and wants our honest advice. He
agrees with me about everything I said to his girlfriend and even told her if
he had to choose she wouldn't be the winner. He is still pretty young, but she
is almost 30. What women is ok with these things. I don’t even like her, but I
have told her that no women deserves this behavior. However she has never been
able to keep a man longer than 5 months, other than my friend. She pays for
everything, it’s almost like she is paying to keep him. After every single
fight she is like the perfect girlfriend for a week and then back to crazy. I
really want none of this in my life nor in my Child's life. Hints why she is no
longer welcomed around us. However I feel this will end a long, close friendship,
no matter how much he tells us it won’t. Sorry so long needed to vent. It’s
starting to make me feel crazy.