I just need to vent, and hear some grounding advice. My SD is 12 and is a bit of a liar and tends to try to play the poor me card with her father. I try as hard as I can to treat her kindly and sweetly. I had a monster of a step mother growing up so I know what not to do. I'm just baffled, hurt, tired and in need of a little advice. SInce day one the SD and BM had an issue with me; for no other reason then whatever they pulled put of the wind. Its getting to be out of control as of late, SD invited over a boy (she is 12!) when my SO and I were not home. Luckily nothing happened but the crazy hit the fan. Her phone was taken away from her and my SO was looking in it and in her phone im listed as (my name here) dads dick sucker.
wow, great. Nice to know that I went to ALL of her soccer games while her mother went to two. I drove her, (and we live an hour away) to birthday parties and church group. I make sure she has clothes to wear, (her mom has FOUR kids and NO job.) the adult in me knows that she is 'just a kid' and im trying to calm down , but after this (and a lot more) this is just worn me out. I feel like if im not buying her something then im the BAD GUY. im tired of being the bad guy, and at this point all I want to do is take a step to the left and not be anything to her.
Just let me have it, my brain is fried.