As I mentioned some months back, I've been estranged from my mom, brother, and a cousin since July. I have had zero contact with them since then, with the exception of me calling my mom on her birthday at the end of September to wish her a Happy Birthday. (That did not go well, as I literally called to say "Happy Birthday," and when she realized I wasn't going to sweep things under the rug, she went apeshit and tried to antagonize me into a fight. I maintained my calm, said I was calling to do the decent thing, clearly she did not appreciate that, and to have a lovely day. Then I hung up.)
So now the holidays are coming, and I'm seriously debating what to do. DH and I are planning on sending them all our standard Christmas card (the Vistaprint photo collage) that we're sending to everyone. And I'm wondering...do I buy and mail gifts as well? I am torn on whether or not it's shitty not to send SOMETHING, but part of me feels like it'd be a waste of money. And I can think of other people I'd rather spend that money on.
What say you?