I'm not really looking for any advice on here, I just need to kind of let it out. And maybe if somebody could tell me I'm doing the right thing that wouldn't hurt.
So, for starters, I'm in the AF, my husband is a civilian. I'm currently in training, and live in California, although he has a job in Nebraska, which is where my duty station is, so I'll be there in approximately 6 months. We've already lived apart for 10 months, so the going's been hard. But, we've made it through it, some little bumps in the road. Like whenever his mother feels the need to weasel her way into our marriage, but we've figured it out together and all-in-all our marriage is solid and we just can't wait to move in together.
Starting the week after next, I'll be in Texas, about 12 hour drive from my DH, or a short non-stop flight. For about 4 months, DH kept telling me that he was planning on flying down to see me for Thanksgiving, we were going to get a little hotel together and just enjoy the holiday together, I spent last thanksgiving here in California, entirely alone, so I was really looking forward to it. Then, about 2 months ago he came to visit me in California, and told me that his dad had called and asked him to go to Spokane to see him for Thanksgiving, and DH wanted to. I was and still am a little upset about it, because I really looking forward to not spending this Thanksgiving alone. It's such a bleak time. But none the less, DH bought a plane ticket, and he's going to Spokane, because I know he really wants to see his dad. We agreed he would fly with me to Oregon for Christmas, and we'd spend that time together.
Well, now that I'm about to go to Texas, I'm learning more about the rules there, and for starters I've learned that we are allowed to take leave over long weekends, such as Thanksgiving, so I could fly up and see him in Nebraska if I wanted to. I told DH this and he said I should fly up to Spokane with him. Honestly I'd rather fly back to see my family in Oregon, but I really want to spend the time with DH as well. I just really don't like my FIL, as he's kind of a jerk and has never shown me much respect the whole time DH and I have been together. But I told DH if everything works out, I'll try to go see him in Spokane.
It just kind of sucks, because I don't even know all of his dad's side of the family and I don't want to spend Thanksgiving with people I don't like as well as people I don't know. It just is a dreary way to spend the holiday in my opinion. But I know it would mean a lot to DH.
I guess I just want somebody to tell me I'm doing the right thing here and that all-in-all it will be benefit our marriage.