I am not sure if this is the right board, if its not, please let me know.
We've been together for 9 years and my 18 year old step son came to live with us 7 months ago, after not having seen his dad in 12 years (not by the choice of dad). To put it bluntly, it has been complete hell for both of us. We've always planned on having kids, but now my husband is saying that he is not sure he can actually be a parent if this is how his other kid turned out. I've tried telling him that he really has had no influence on his son and that the way he turned out is NOT because of my husband. But, my telling him this isn't working. Does anyone have any thoughts on how I can help him understand this?
Edited to clarify: He came to live with us because his mom kicked him out shortly after he turned 18 because he was picking fights with her new boyfriend and because she had a baby on the way.