My daughter in law is a liar. She lies about little things and big things. Has always, and my son knows it but deals with it. Currently she has a job she hates, so she has told my son she is going to start going to school full time for a program that is not offered at the school she says she is going to attend. Allegedly she has a guaranteed job for when she is finished, in 10 months. I have both emailed and called the school and have found there is no such course. The reasons I checked, by the way, are 1. her track record, 2. we are going on an extensive vacation for 6 weeks and during that time she is going to be working and going to school a total of 70 hours a week and 3. it's an unusual program and I am curious about it. My son tries to work at home, but he does the child care while she is working, and so will be responsible for the care of their 3 1/2 year old and 16 month old during that time...70 hours a week plus travel time. Anyone with children that age knows what it's like, and these are both high spirited boys. At least when we are here I can help out a couple of days a week and I often take the older one home overnight. My son said--about the class, not our trip--that he can deal with it because "there will be money at the end of it".
Our trip of course was planned long before this all came up, and cannot be cancelled without serious financial penalties.
I hinted to my son that the course may not be offered there, by telling him I looked online (which I did). I did not tell him however that I investigated further, and I don't know if I should. I am too much involved in their lives (I know that's a no-no) because we own the house they live in, and he needs lots of help in other areas, but I do stay out of their personal life and especially out of what she does.
I think perhaps she is going to be taking a course in a much less lucrative area, and at the end get a job in that field. I can't imagine why she thinks she can hide that later, but thinking ahead is hard for her.
My question is: should I tell my son more of what I learned? If we weren't going away, I'd bide my time. But since we are...