DH's family are local and since we've been together we've attended every birthday on his Mom's side (Mom, Grandma, Grandpa, Uncles, Brother) and it was fine. We only do this with DH's mom's side. These birthdays go: dinner, break, cake and ice cream then presents. (Totally like a child's bday) We now have two kids (3.5 years and 9 weeks) and I think it might be time to be able to miss some of these birthdays, especially if they are not milestones. Although when I brought this up to DH he has issues with it because it's something he enjoys doing; which I've always respected. Also, before DS2 arrived, it was getting tough because DS1 would never want to eat (he'd barely eat cake and ice cream too) and would just want to play, which is fine, but he's the only kid that's ever there and then he gets bored. Then when it's time to go, it takes an hour to say goodbye and get hugs in. Obviously this is my issue, but I'm wondering if any one else does this too.