I don't really know where to start. ok...I have been with my husband for 7 years(married for 4 years). We love each other dearly! I guess the biggest issue is his general I don't care attitude. He acts like he doesn't care about feelings, responsibilities, or health. Don't get me wrong He is great at saying I love you and you look pretty but sometimes his lack of understanding body language or vocal tone is exhausting. The social awkwardness is equally difficult. I frequently have to explain what he said was not appropriate or generally what is going on in the current situation. He had bad childhood and doesn't understand family bond. That makes family events and holidays a no go. It is also hard for him to make and keep friends. People just give up on him. I do not want to give up on him! I love him too darn much! My patience is wearing thin with unbalanced give and take. We don't have kids and are not going to school at the moment. This is hard! I hate complaining when other people have harder lives. I feel like a maid, secretary, and mom more than a spouse. I am the primary provider. My job isn't difficult but it is a full time job. He works part time and sales collectables on the side. It is hard getting him to work! He has no sense of urgency....saying "it doesn't matter if I am late". We are not in debt or anything but pretty much living paycheck to paycheck. His toy collecting really burns a hole in our pocket. Collecting brings him joy and his knowledge of toys is impressive. I don't mind his hobby but it has become an obsession! We have toys in every room, closet, and corner. The invasion just grows...It is like a scene from toy soldiers! This focus can take precedence over common responsibilities including health. He has to have that rare collectable with its high price even if we have more pressing financial obligations. He sometimes forgets to eat. When he does eat he tries to make up for missing the previous meal. I try to have a healthy diet. Working with him to make a meal plan is a chore! He refuses to talk about it and yet complains about what we do have to eat. Our work schedules are completely different so it makes it is difficult to cook him the fresh meals he wants. He has given up cooking for himself saying "I just don't feel like cooking". It is a shame. He is a great cook! Ok that is my rant for now...any thoughts?