Trouble in Paradise
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I'm 23 and was a single mom before I met my husband. My husband and I got married in August of 2013. Before we got married we moved out of my long term rental to help his grandmother out with her house. 2 weeks after we got married he went out of state for a month for work (completely unexpected). He did come home after his old job offered him a better position working nights. At this time I was working days, him nights. While he was out of state I kind of kept to myself because I was sad hurt and lonely. His family didn't care for that very much and started running their mouths and spreading rumors. After his return and the blow out with my inlaws we moved back into my old rental which we decided to buy. I tried to patch things up with his family as much as possible and everything was going good. Around January we got into a petty argument. He had bought me a vehicle for my bday and had since put it on a website and wanted to trade it for a dirtbike. Obviously I was irate and made a big deal out of it. He then started to come home later than normal (around 5am when he gets out at 12:30am). A week later he told me he was moving out and wanted a divorce. I became very emotional and pushed him for an answer and he punched a hole in our bathroom wall (a side of him I've never seen before). He came and moved his stuff out with no reason. I tried reaching out to him multiple times to talk and he wouldn't even respond. What bothered me the most is my son was involved and now hurting Bc that was his "dad". Before we got married I had wrecked my vehicle and he was letting me use his. When he left he took that vehicle. He canceled my sons and i's health insurance. Stopped fuel delivery for my heat and left me working a part time job supporting my sister and my son. It was very hard to make ends meet but I was able to keep our heads above water. Thank goodness tax time was right around the corner. I didn't leave my house for 2 months straight except for work and never went Into the small town where everyone knows everyone and everything. I still received nonsense on FB from his family. I even deleted them and any acquaintances of his. I bought myself a vehicle and paid off my bills for a while and went to florida for a couple weeks. By this time it has been almost four months he has been gone without any contact. My son even tried calling him and leaving voicemails. I then decided it was time to move on and had a great time on vacation in Florida. I was wen talking to a great guy from my hometown. Before I came home from vacation I received a call that I was being served. I never thought the day would come...I came home and dealt with that right away. Received my divorce papers and called the lawyer like I was instructed. A few weeks later my soon to be ex texted me and asked me for some information. After an all day back and forth text conversation I asked him to meet up. He did and we talked and cried for 7 hours. We decided to try and work things out and he came home. My son was ecstatic but you can tell he had issues with him. I went and talked to his family and tried clearing up the small town rumors. His mother told me to sign the papers and just leave it alone. That she can't believe that what she didn't hear was true and was so rude to me we haven't talked really since. He called his lawyer and cancelled the divorce he spent almost 3000$ on and sold my rings to pay for. He's been back now for almost 4 months and I dk if I'll ever get over the hurt he out me through. Plus I still think about the guy that I was talking to while we were split. Am I crazy for letting him come back? Is it worth trying to work it out? Sorry for the long post just need some outside help. I don't even have the urge to be intimate with him anymore. Any advice would be great. Tia!!