The relationship with my mother has always been troubled, ever since I can remember as a child. I was belittled and criticized as a child and an adult when my decisions didn't coincide with their (both parents when my dad was alive) opinions. We had many rows when I was a teen and even after I became an adult because they didn't respect boundaries. Fast forward to now (I'm 45), my mother, for lack of better words, is embarrassing to go out with in public. She has no filter, talks about inappropriate subjects in a loud voice, and makes condescending remarks to both my husband and I. For example, when my daughter graduated high school, my gem of a husband removed her and took her home from the party we were attending in my daughter's honor because my mother was talking to my ex-inlaws about death and cancer in a loud voice. I feel bad for feeling this way, and jealous of people who have good relationships with their moms. I'm at the point that I am limiting my time with her to only a couple of times a year (she lives 10 minutes from me) because I am so sick and fed up with her. Any suggestions are welcomed, even if you tell me I'm a terrible person for feeling this way about her.