He keeps in touch with an ex girlfriend. She has a child that he is fond of, but not his. She did in-vitro, and he has known the child since the boy was born.
Yesterday, the ex arrives at our door at 9:00 am. We have a a summer home, and she was visiting friends in the same town. She states she called ahead of time, and the son wanted to see him. I do not like her because I feel she has crossed too many boundaries with us, and causes arguments. She tried to play nice with me, and I excused myself and went to the bedroom. She followed me and questioned me about this, and said she only wants us to be happy. I explained to please leave me alone, and I did not want to fight. I also explained she has crossed boundaries. She left crying, and said I was threatening to her!
The three of them went to a donut shop, and were gone for about two hours. I was livid, upset etc.... Later, I looked at his phone to see if she truly had called ahead of time. Her name is in his phone as a fake name. This upset me more than anything. I feel betrayed. I question if there is more going on than innocent phone calls and interactions.
Today, I brought it up. He responded he didn't know. I responded with a F you.
What do you think? I am upset!