Quick background: Married almost 7 years, together 7 years prior to that, two kids. I've always had pain with sex so our sex life has never been great. Relationship hasn't been good at all lately (fighting, family deaths, emergencies, as well as a lot of laziness and irresponsible-ness on DH's part). I give DH a lot of leeway in hanging out with friends.
Couple weeks ago, he went to a bar to hang with some friends and play pool (normal thing he does). Our garage is also set-up as a "man cave" where they all hang out. A few weeks ago I was already in bed when he got home and could hear talking (couldn't understand what though). Next day I ask him if he had fun, who was over, etc.. told me a woman he met at a bar was over. At first, I was not worried about it. Then he says he didn't go to bed until 3-4am. I find out they were alone for at least part of that time. Then he laughs and says, yeah, its funny, she and a friend of hers actually asked if I wanted to have a threesome. Thats when I got upset. He said they ended up just talking about how she got out of a long-term relationship and she was having issues. He said he did not talk about our relationship and made it clear he was married. I made it clear that wasn't okay, he said "nothing" happened. I told him I didn't care and the fact that he thought it was okay was what made me so upset. He told me he'd stop talking to her, and he has.
Being snoopy, I looked at our cell phone activity on our bill and essentially he called and texted her over the course of two days, some texts and calls late, like 12-3 am. He did truly stop contacting her.
But then he got pissy with me this week and it started a fight because he wants to know when he's "off probation" because this issue, along with a lot of other things that have accumulated, and my pain issues, have made our physical relationship non-existent. Last time we were even intimate was February. So he's rightfully upset about that, and I'm sure some of this stuff with this woman were because he was getting attention and he probably enjoyed it.
But would you have trust issues after that? Am I over-reacting?