A couple of years ago I made the trek from my birth country to California (being a US citizen myself). Back in the day, it was REALLY tough for me to find a job in my birthplace, so I decided to invest all my savings to finally get away from that dead-end hole. Some family members disrespected me during those times, nobody supported me while I was trying to accomplish my goal and most took me as a joke when I said I was leaving.
I built myself a new life here with friends, a job and my own place and ppl back home seem to look at me in a different way now. Thing is: an uncle of mine who was in a better economic/social standing wants to send his son here with me so I help him to make a living in this country. The guy always treated me like I was incapable of accomplishing anything on my own. He constantly teased in front of people to embarrass me, he even treats me mom like she's worthless and inferior in comparison with others. He's the kind of guy who always seems to get away with everything he does and he thinks he's better than the rest. He's capable of lying, exaggerating details to make everything he does look better. I know he still derides me and he wants to use me to get his son a better future here. Now I can choose on what side of his tales I want to be: the one who turned his back on the family or the ''worthless'' one who's been ''surpassed'' by his son in the new country.
My cousin is also a US citizen and is already learning English. We have some common family here they hadn't talked to in years and I was the one who got in touch with them again. They helped me a lot through this time and we built a really nice relationship with one another.
Now that I'm established my cousin wants to move in with me and wants me to get him in touch with our family here. I'm going to say NO to the first one. No matter what they think. But I'm really afraid he's gonna screw things up with the local family. His personality is way different from mine and I've never liked him quite much besides the rivalry with his father. And like I said, I have a nice relationship with this people and I don't want this guy to screw it all up.
I worked really hard to get where I am and I'm not willing to be used be people who deride me. So I was wondering if you got any suggestions on how to discourage this guy from coming (which seems difficult) or on how to make clear I don't want anything to do with him if he comes here