Hello first of all, hope you're all well
Ok - I'll try to make this as short as possible...
My sister is 32 (I'm 22 and live at home with parents, I work full time, and I'm in a long term relationship of 6 years). My sister has been in an abusive relationship with the same man for about 15 years (abuse both ways) and at a time she would only come here when he kicked her out or hit her etc. She has 3 sons, one is 18, one is 16, and the other one is about 9 (but he was giving up for adoption last year due to my sister going into sheltered accommodation).
This is where the problems began, we took in the 16 year old for over a year, and she never paid a penny towards his upkeep, neither did the dad, we gave him clothes etc, paid for school trips, bought him a mobile phone and christmas presents etc, eventually things started going missing around the house (namely my PS3 games, DVD's, cigarettes etc) he denied taking them but was caught in the act, so we sent him back to his parents (by this time my sister and her boyfriend are back together). The oldest nephew is on drugs and has supposedly been diagnosed with a mental problem due to the drug use, he attacked my mam and swore and spit at her etc, and has been harassing my parents on and off for over a year. He has damaged the family car, and he was caught telling one of his friends to bang on our windows at night (neighbors caught him) and various other things. Basically we have cut them all out of our lives now, sister has never worked nor does her boyfriend and they live off benefits and have no intent to work,ever.
The other side of this is, I feel in a way this is holding me back as I'm afraid if I leave or move out, something could happen to my parents due to my sister/nephews, my dad isn't in great health and they should be able to enjoy their lives without feeling as though something is going to happen every day. Talking to them (sister etc) as you can imagine is a waste of time.
This is just a load off my mind being able to talk about it to other people, has anyone else gone through similar events, or any advice etc?