I’ve been a lurker on this site, and have never posted before. I’m hoping you all can give me some honest advice. (sorry in advance if this is too long)
My FIL’s mom has been having memory problems for the past year. At first it wasn’t anything too serious, but recently it has gotten quite bad. She was living in AZ, and we (FIL, MIL, DH, and I) live in MI. When the memory thing started she started talking about either her moving up here or all of us moving down there. In the end she was refusing to move up and we for one reason or another could not move down.
Well, time passed and her sister who live a few blocks away had a stroke. Her sister then decided to move in with her son in CA. At this point GMIL realized she was having memory problems and knew living alone in AZ when her family was in MI wasn’t going to work. So she put her house up for sale and told us she wanted to move up here. Now at first she wanted to buy a duplex and have DH and me move in on the otherside. At first we thought it wouldn’t be a bad idea, but she kept forgetting she had decided this and state she was never going to move.
Well, she called the week before Memorial Weekend saying she couldn’t be alone in AZ anymore and someone needed to come get her. FIL and MIL flew down on Memorial Weekend. MIL flew back with GMIL and FIL is driving her car back to MI. (He should be back tomorrow) However, since her memory is so bad now MIL didn’t want to leave her alone all day while she was at work. Since I work at night and am free during the day she asked if I could sit with GMIL while FIL is traveling back. (FIL works from home, so after he’s back he’ll be with her during the day) I agreed to do it.
I sat with her yesterday, and she told me that she was scared. I tried my best to help reassure her. Today, she was even worse. She told me she couldn’t wait to get back home (the house in AZ has been sold already). She also says she feels lost and no one is telling her what the plan is. (I know FIL and MIL have talked to her about it, but she doesn’t remember) She is getting angry (not at me though), and wants answers. I honestly don’t blame her, she’s scared and doesn’t know what’s happening.
We think she might have dementia/Alzheimer’s and we are worried what would happen if she lived on her own. We want to get her evaluated so that we can figure out the best solution for her. FIL does have power of attorney now, but he is not making any decisions without consulting her.