Ok, I feel like a horrible person for even complaining...but I also feel like I'm at the end of my rope. My step son who is 18 moved in with my husband and I about a month ago. To put it plainly, the kid has had it rough. His mom made sure my husband was not in the picture and her family and the step dad/step dad's family were very abusive. So, my step son has a lot of issues he needs to over come. I feel bad for him, I REALLY do. I am doing my best to be understanding and to help him as much as I can. For the most part, he is a really sweet kid. He is reconnecting with my husband very well.
The problem is that we (my husband and I) cannot have a conversation without him present. He is ALWAYS there. He only goes to his room to sleep and will not stay in a room by himself. We resorted to whispering in our room after he goes to bed. That was until last night. We were whispering and we hear from upstairs "I can hear you talking...stop talking about me". The house we are renting is small. We tried talking outside (1/2 acre away from the house) and we get back to "I hope you know I could hear you talking" and then he repeats our conversation. If we try talking while he is in the room, he tries to take over the conversation...even if it does not involve him in the least...and some things just need to be talked about privately. As of last night's revelation, I am now completely uncomfortable. No hope of a private conversation, sex life...gone (hearing from upstairs "I can hear you kissing" is a total mood killer). To make it all slightly worse, he NEVER stops talking. If he is not talking to one of us, he talks to himself.
He has been seeing a therapist 3 days a week since he was 9 and is not refusing to go because its "stupid". Does anyone have ANY suggestions on how to deal with this? I don't want to be the evil step mom, but at the same time...is it too much to ask to be able to have a private conversation?