My husband has some behaviors that I find undesirable (ie. selfishness, inconsideration, general lack of maturity & responsibility, shows disrespect toward women including me, not affectionate, etc.). I knew these were issues we'd have to work on when I entered this relationship. I've tried addressing these issues repeatedly over the course of our 8 yr relationship, and very little has changed. In talking to a friend who's a therapist, I brought up the idea of a temporary move out (like staying in a hotel or friend's place for a week). I am at a loss to get his attention that his behaviors need to change in order for our relationship to progress. I'm not at the point where I feel divorce is necessary but I've dealt with these issues long enough to be emotionally exhausted & frustrated. Was wondering if anyone else has had success with this shock & awe tactic. Stories appreciated..