Too much for the WTF post... but this is one big WTF to EX
Let's start with the Shoe Scandal of 2014:
Ex texted H Monday about MIL buying the kids shoes. We didn't know about that, but um... ok? Sorry? Ex then said she was going to buy them shoes, but she went out and with 4 kids it was too much + grocery shopping. Later, H talked to MIL and she said she didn't want to start drama, but the reason she got Ryan shoes was because his had 2 big holes in them!!! WTF!? And she couldn't get one shoes and not the other. There's 2 other adults in that house, they watch the kids that don't need shoes and you take the ones that do. Oh but, there was time to plan the 3rd kid's bday party Sunday. Maybe it's because Ryan has autism and don't complain it's freezing out, wet and snowy and his shoes HAVE FREAKING HOLES IN THEM!
But this spins H into a mood - do we give her enough money, am I a good dad, am I doing enough, etc. I reminded him, they might be tight from moving, but that's not his fault. If she did her taxes, they got at least 4K back from child tax credit, but if he wanted to give her more we can. Honestly, I'd rather buy things like shoes, then give her more money. My dad told him before, his money is to help support his 2 kids, not support the family of 7 they got going on.
This is also a WTF Lilly's School - Then last night, Ex calls saying Lilly's school once again is pushing to classify Lilly as austic. Lilly is not austic, if they are confused, we can bring in Ryan. Every year they do this, Ex takes her to the doctor, who won't test her because she does not has autism. She's doing better this year, finally at reading level and seems to be doing ok. Oh - an indictor they put down was she eats a lot of mustard. Well, hell then I'm autistic. I love me some mustard! I guess she's in a phase where she wants only mustard sandwich. Um, that's being a kid, not autism. My sister only ate ketchup and cheese sandwiches. Jeff said he ate only ketchup...
Jeff asked ex if he can call the school to talk to them- No, you're not on the list. He asked to be put on the list, and she said no, she didn't want him to look better than her. WTF! Seriously?! Really?! Then he suggested we could take her and see what happens. "No, I'm the only thing consistent in her life". Um, no your not. And he would be more consistent other than just visiting - IF YOU WOULD LET HIM! And this isn't about YOU it's about YOUR DAUGHTER! He finally told her he didn't know what to do unless she untied his hands. I was so proud of him. I know she just wants a pity party, sorry Jeff wants to find actual solutions.
Again, this put Jeff in a mood. I love his kids, you guys know that, but sometimes I get so worn out from having to pick him up after any and all interactions with her.