So, I know this is a super early post...but, I want to test the waters on how these ideas might be perceived.
Background: We live 6 1/2 hours away from my DH's family. In the past we have always driven down for Thanksgiving and back...a grueling drive to-from ATL, and my husband stays where we are to celebrate Christmas with my family (10 minutes away). Well, last Thanksgiving (actually the past two) haven't been that great. My DH feels left out of his family. They never ask him about his job, anything that's going on, etc.-- they basically concentrate on his sister, and the holiday is just not fun in general-- especially given the horrible travel that is inevitable. Last year, his sister also announced that she would host Christmas (4 hours away) because her two kids are getting to an age that it's just easier with Santa. (Totally understandable.) What wasn't understandable was that she didn't invite DH and I (or even think to mention it until a week before Christmas). This wasn't a huge deal since we already had plans, but it was more hurtful to my DH who up until that moment hadn't had a reminder that he was an afterthought. To add insult to injury, he called his family on Christmas and no one ever called him back- for four days-- because they forgot. (Heartbreaks.)
So, I have an idea. We moved into our house two years ago, and got married about six months ago. My idea is to host Thanksgiving at our house this year with both families--- local families to bring a dish to share. We would invite his sister, but I'm sure she wouldn't come down. I thought this would help solve a lot of issues--- no travel for us and the family, combine two families who like seeing each other, and putting DH more in control and with his parents in a different setting.
1. His parents will take it the wrong way.
2. His parents will choose his sister over him, which I think would hurt a lot more.
I ran a tester by my mom who usually hosts here and she was all for trying a new tradition. I just...i'm at a loss. I can tell DH feels like he's at a loss either way.....