Hi all, I am new to this board and was looking for some help. I want some advice on how to confront my dad, brother and sister. They have made false accusations against me, and no proof was ever provided, and finally my dad said he didn’t have any proof. So here is the story below. I’m sorry it is a little long.
My father and I had a huge fight in May of 2013 and him, my younger brother and sister all were against me accusing me of stealing jewelry (all gold) , 150,000.00 in cash, and robbing our family business blind too. So according to them about half a million dollars. . I was completely taken back by all this. I asked my dad who would say this, and he said my brother and sister discovered this information. So naturally, I asked for proof. Well my dad was just not having it. He hit me a few times; my brother and sister were cussing me out, so I left.
I called my grandpa, he booked me a ticket and I left to Texas to be with him. I left in the middle of the night while they were sleeping. My face was bruised from the punches, and I asked my dad repeatedly what proof do you have, and he would just get madder, and say he didn’t have to prove anything to me, that my bro and sis would not lie about something this serious, and that I needed to just say the truth. Well I refused. I told him I would not admit to something I did not do. I cut contact off with him for 6 months up until recently. He ended up coming up with a dozen more accusations against me. “You were stealing clothes too, your boyfriend stole money from my shop too, and you are living a good life off my hard earned money, and even proceeded to tell the rest of the family that I cleaned his bank account out. The whole thing just makes me sick. So 3 days ago, I snapped. We argued back and forth for 2 days via text message. And I finally got my answers. He says the reason I was being blamed was because I am the oldest, and I was responsible for everything. Then he said that I "cover up my tracks" and "hide my traces" really well but when the snow melts all the shit will show. In other words he has no proof, but insists and knows in his “heart” it was me. Now, lots of people in my family are telling me that my dad is pissed with me.
All my brothers and sisters listen carefully to him for fear they will be cut out of the will, or disowned. ( Strict Muslim family). When I left my home, and was actually on my own with my grandpa in Texas, I ended up doing really well. I finally got to finish my degree, I have a very good job that pays really well, and have made new friends out here. I got my real estate license and now sell real estate also. So in other words, I don’t want to go back to Michigan. So my family members are telling me that Dad is upset with me because I left him, and "took control of my life without his permission and blessings" and he’s upset. So this is his way of getting me back home so I can "face my dad, brother, and sister" and clear my conscious.
All of you thank you for reading; this whole drama has taken a huge toll on my life. I wake up so depressed and sometimes don’t feel like getting out of bed. I just want to confront them and be done with it but I don’t know exactly what to say. It’s not common for me to argue with my father, and I have never stood up to him. So any help would be appreciated.