My fiance and I have been engaged for just over a month. We have been together for three years, but ever since day one my mother just can't get over his dislike for him. She is extremely traditional and Fiance and I are the exact opposite. She can't get over his long hair and his piercings, and thinks they're disgusting. The first thing she said after I announced my engagement was, "So is he gonna cut his hair so he looks more like a man?" It's pathetic and unnecessary.
On top of that, I was the one to propose (remember what I said about being non-traditional?) and I bought my own ring, and of course she had an issue with that, and now I'm convinced she doesn't even take my engagement seriously now. She seems to think it's her decision whether or not I marry him.
I feel so bad for Fiance because she has had negative things to say about him for the past three years, despite hardly knowing him. And the reason I don't bring him around is entirely because of these negative prejudgments she has. If she wouldn't have ever said anything negative about him before even knowing him in the first place, I would be more open to the idea, but now that it's necessary to have them know one another, the situation is difficult.
How can I go about making things easy for all of us? This is supposed to be the happiest time in my life, and it's already extremely stressful.