I'll try to make this short...
My brother lives across the other side of the country. My mother and I live in the same state and see him rarely because flights/hotels are expensive. He has an 18 month old son which has made this distance even more unbearable. Mom and I visited them in October and she has been very sensitive about the fact that she got no "alone" time with her grandson. I got a little bit because she suggested I stay at their place on the couch, but she was always there within an hour of the parents leaving for work. My mom preferred to stay at a B&B because at that point he was not sleeping through the night and had been through an ordeal with she visiting earlier last year (without me).
Fast forward to today:
Sis in law and nephew is coming for a very short visit. She nicely offered to drop nephew off for the afternoon at my mother's. So I was excited for her and I to get some quality with him. Sunday we are invited to an "open house" affair at sis in law's mom's house but it won't allow for much quality time with nephew. Because of this, my mom is asking that I do not come over to her place for a couple of hours so she can have some one on one time with him. I understand why she wants the alone time but I feel that this is incredibly selfish considering the very short time we have to see him. I'm quite saddened by this and told her so. She told me this via text, I responded via text, she has not responded.
WWYD? Let it go? Be happy to at least get like...2 hours of time with him? Am I being dramatic? FWIW, most of my aunts and uncles were absent in my life and I do not want the same thing happening in my generation. Also, FWIW, I am not a mother. I am not a grandmother. I'm not sure if I'm just *missing* something, but my mom is trying to say that grandmother trumps aunt and I don't think there is a trump card. I just want to spend time with my nephew like a normal person. I don't care if I'm alone with him......Sigh.