I need unbiased feedback - thank you in advance!
My husband's parents live out of the country, but make trips fairly often and stay for an average of 3 weeks with each trip. They used to come and just borrow a car as needed from one of us (husband, me, brother/sister in law). Then, a couple of years ago they decided to rent a car for their stay. My husband and his brother decided to go in together and cover the rental. It was no big deal at the time as it was a one time thing. Well, two years later and several trips later, they're still covering the rentals 50/50. Before this last trip I brought it up to my husband that it's too pricey and that we need to stop paying towards the rental b/c we need to focus on our own family's needs. He agreed. 3 weeks later his parents have come and gone and his brother covered the rental 100% and just asked if we were going to go in on it with him or not. My husband now feels bad and is going to cover 50% of the rental. When I brought up the conversation he went on to say that he owes them for everything that they've paid for in his life (college, etc). My point is that we have a baby and a house and our own expenses. Additionally, they would be able to get by borrowing one of our cars, so there's no need to have a rental. I'm angry about 2 things: The first being that we already discussed this and he should have followed through discussing with his brother so that everyone was on the same page. The second being my husband's feelings that he "owes" his parents for paying his way through college. I have to pay student loans, and I actually am paying my dad back for a student loan that he paid off for me 5 years ago (but that was the agreement at the time). My parents were not able to support me or pay for my college education - but he knew all of this and knew about my student loans long before we were engaged or even married. To me - I don't feel like we owe his parents anything more than gratitude and appreciation. Am I being selfish and stingy? Or am I right that we have no reason to be paying $150 or more each time they visit so that they can have an extra car to go shopping/etc?
Thanks for listening to my rant.