Does anyone else have this problem? My MIL so sweet and nice that it's almost sickening. I can only handle her visiting for about a day and a half then i pretty much shut down until she leaves. Then after she leaves i feel terrible.
When she visits, it seems like we can never have any real conversation, it's all chit-chat. i think she talked about how "pleasing" our curtains are for about 20 minutes (no one talks like that!). But then when we do start having a real conversation, here come the waterworks about her life.
sometimes she might want to watch a show, but it has to be the most G-rated Hallmark movie there is because if there is any suggestion that people in fiction or reality might be living a less than pleasant life, she becomes visually disturbed. It also has to be one that my husband and i have already seen because she has to give a rundown of the filmography of each actor in the movie (then asks what happened because she was talking).
She also treats my husband, his brother (especially, who is 42yo) and me like we are 8 years old. In OUR OWN house she asks us if we want "something hot to drink." by hot, she means nuclear. all her food and drink has to be nuclear. I don't know why this quirk drives me so crazy.
She came to visit right after Christmas. We had the impression she would be there Friday-Tuesday (even though we had to go back to work on Monday). She started talking about staying through New Years and having her other son come over and spend the night again. This stressed me out because when she's there, it doesn't feel like a day off, so my husband and i go back to work more stressed. Anyway, my husband told her, "You're welcome to stay, but we have to go to work." then she started talking about maybe we could get off from work early (My husband and i are just about the only people in her whole family that have full-time 9-5 jobs, so she doesn't understand why we can't just sit around drinking coffee and chit-chatting all day, every day for weeks on end like the rest of her family). He told her he didn't know if we could. Then she started saying she felt like we wanted her to leave (which honestly, by that point i kinda did, but i was trying very hard to be nice). They went back and forth literally about 30 times, "you're welcome to stay, but we have to go to work." She said crying, "I understand that, but i feel like you want me to leave!" Hubs, "No, i said you're welcome to stay, but we still have to go to work." ... "I understand that, but i feel like you want me to leave!" back and forth, back and forth for like 30 minutes. i was in the back of the house trying to do laundry to get ready for the upcoming work week, just listening, until i lost it and went in there and yelled, "Do we have to do this EVERY SINGLE TIME!? None of you people listen to each other." usually i'm very quiet and reserved when she's there, so this was probably quite a shocker. open the floodgates! she's sobbing now. I couldn't take it anymore, i just left and spent the rest of the day with my mom and grandma, super aware and appreciative of their sanity.
My husband says she just really loves me and thinks i'm wonderful and all that, which makes me feel even worse, but that the same time, i feel like she can't REALLY love me, she doesn't even really know me because her mawkishness makes me so uncomfortable i can't be myself.