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meangieman
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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email [email protected]
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Feeling like an outsider in my own home...
Recently my in-laws have fallen on hard times and had an accident to their home so we offered to let them live in our basement. I can't help but feel like I'm the outsider since they aren't used to living with us and our family. Every time I try to punish the kids at least one of them is there to console the girls and try to offer a helping hand. Even when I try to talk to my husband about it they always seem to hear. My MIL felt like she wasn't welcome here at the beginning but we assured her that they were. Is it wrong of me to think I shouldn't have to change the way we do things and our routines to accommodate them?
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Re: Feeling like an outsider in my own home...
No, you shouldn't have to change your routine to appease them - family or not, they are guests in your home.
I do not have kids (yet), but the way I see it, you are the parent - YOU. Not your IL's. And your H needs to step up and tell them that they are not to undermine you when you are disciplining your children or anything else to do with your children. Because that is exactly what they are doing. You have rules and routines in place for a reason and they need to respect that - especially when it's in your home.
Yep, your husband needs to talk to them. You guys shouldn't come across as the bad guys for disciplining them.
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