So annoyed while typing this!!
My BIL moved cross country in May to live in the town that my H and I live in. No big deal but there are a few reasons the timing wasn't right. He is 39 and doesn't have a drivers license due to THREE DUI's. He hasn't had a license for years and still has years before he can get it back. After a week of living here, he gets a scooter (that my husband paid more than half of to "help him out"). Scooter breaks on day 3. So for close to 2 months my H, myself or MY PARENTS (yes, my parents) picked him up from work every night at 10 pm (M-F) about 30 min away.
After nearly 2 months, he *finally* got a brand new scooter...situation taken care of. What I haven't mentioned is that BIL lives in the house that I still own. We have been paying TWO mortgages since February. (We didn't rent the place out after we bought our new house in January because we knew BIL was planning on moving here and renting it.) My husband didn't make him pay any rent for some of May and all of June and July. The agreement (between them) was that BIL was to start paying Aug. 1st. Well, guess who had to start asking the brother for the rent a couple days into August? My H... and 90% of me only thinks he did because I mentioned it. So, come Aug 12 he pays only half of the rent. Tomorrow will be 3 weeks into August and we still don't have the rest of the rent and no word from BIL. What bothers me is that wouldn't work anywhere you live...why take advantage of us that way? My H doesn't seem to care but I really do. Like I mentioned, BIL is 39 and makes decent money. It really seems as though BIL is taking advantage of the fact that my H hasn't put his foot down on anything. We have constantly helped him on every level since he arrived in May, so this isn't just a money thing.
It is causing serious friction between H and I. My H doesn't seem to care but I'm sure he would if the situation was vice versa and it was my brother. We make pretty good money but it still shouldn't mean that BIL gets to pay whenever he wants or choose the amount. In my mind, it's just another way this grown man gets to take advantage of those around him.
I guess I needed to vent but also to ask what you all would do in this situation???