I have a wonderful friend with two adorable girls,who are 7 and 5. Her husband, however, seems almost crazy controlling. He doesn't hide the fact that he doesn't like kids, and when we go to their house, I hate to see how he treats his own daughters. He's not outright verbally or physically abusive, but it's obvious that they fear him, and he controls every little detail. For example, they've never eaten at their dinner table as a family, because he doesn't want the girls to ruin the chairs. I think that is crazy. The only places they're allowed to play are in their tiny room upstairs, and the rec room in the basement. They aren't allowed to play in the living room or dining room, or even to sit on the furniture. They aren't allowed to put toys anywhere that doesn't have a carpet, because he doesn't want the floors getting scratched.
I love this friend and her kids, and it hurts to see him treating them like somehow having perfect furniture and un-marked hardwood floors is more important than kids playing and being a part of the home. Am I overreacting, or is this as weird as I think? Anything I can do?? I avoid going over when he's home because I don't like being around him.