I just wanted to give you an update on the continuing story about my SIL. If you remember I posted a while back about how my SIL and MIL basically have "tortured" my DH and I and I was essentially done with both of them. Then we found out the my SIL was getting a divorce and remarrying another man and we were invited to the wedding by my FIL.
Ok well it has been about a month since the wedding and again everything was going fine. We had not gone to the wedding and life was quiet. I had mentioned before that since we were having nothing to do with either the MIL or SIL life has been wonderfully calm and quiet.
About a week ago we found out that my SIL was calling me names on some website I don't know if it was Facebook, Myspace or somewhere else but it was there. So my DH called her on it and basically her response was that was not for you to find out about it was a "private conversation". I love how it is not that she shouldn't have done it it is that we shouldn't have seen it which is beside the point. Granted it may have been private but someone else brought it to our attention so my question was how private could have it been.
Ok so fast forward a week and my husband gets a 2 page email from his sister apologizing for what she said. Now keep in mind that she does things and then she apologizes, she does things and then she apologizes it is a vicious cycle and you are just supposed to keep the cycle going and going. (I have stopped going in circles that is why my MIL and SIL are so mad at me because I refuse to say I forgive you or it is ok because I can't take the cycle any more! I am done with them!) Anyway, the 2 page email quoted scripture and how she has God's love and when people don't have God's love then forgiveness doesn't happen. She just kept going on and on.
Now please don't misinterpret what I am typing I am just as religious as the next person but I don't go around typing the things she typed in an email. What was really funny is even though it was an apology email she mainly degraded me everyway she could. For instance, she blames me for my DH not attending her wedding, "because other individuals can cloud your judgement". (He makes his own decisions) And she basically accused me of not having any religion and because of that my DH doesn't have any either. (Untrue we do have religion we just don't go to her church we go to our own and there is nothing wrong with any church it is in her eyes if you don't go to the one she is attending this week you are wrong!) She also basically said that I am leading him to divorce and she recommends a movie for us to watch to get us back on the same track and some Sunday school class for married couples. (Again we are not having problems in any way that would lead anyone to think divorce!) In the end the entire two page email essentially said how perfect she was and how not perfect we were but she appologized for the comments she had posted on the computer.
After reading the email and not believing what I was reading I basically told my husband that again I am not going back to the way it was in the past and if they think that what she wrote was an apology that she is wrong. And I did come to the conclusion that even if I would forgive her it really would not do much good because even though I would "forgive" her and my MIL I don't trust them. I don't trust them not to do the things they have done to me in the past and I guarantee that there is more to come in the future.
Some of you asked to keep you updated so I wanted to give you the newest event.