Hi. I have a question for all those who have little ones and their DH or they are a financial consultant, etc. please dont flame.
My DH and i started having the "baby" talk. And even though we both know we are not ready for children, i wonder how the next few years are going to play out. DH is an all encompassing financial consultant. He deals with it all and therefore doesn't really have much time to spend with me and our theoretic future child in his down time. He wants to have children in no less than 5 years (which i don't think i quite fair, since sometimes concieving does just happen and i REALLY don't want him to resent me for being pregnant before the 5 year mark). He says 5 years because by then his business will be up and running and he believes that he would then have time for a child. i, on the other hand believe that with his choice career, he will never have enough time for a child and to be as successful as he aspires to be.
My father is a financial consultant and has been for 29 years. I did not have a relationship with him growing up and the reason i feel that he knows as much as he does about me is becasue i work for his company and we ride to work together. We have about 40 minutes each way to talk and discuss different ideas and opinions, however our conversations never stray too far from finance or politics. It's never personal. He was always locked up in his study or traveling for meetings and such when i was a child, even to this day- i feel bad for my mom because their relationship does suffer from all his work. it just happenes that he was hardly there for my birthday since my bday falls on or around opening day for whitewing dove, but that's another story. I dont remember many memoreis of us together as a child or tween, anything. I dont want my DH to not be a part of this child's life...i do more than anything. I fear that his career will eat up too much of his time. i fear that if we do have a child, he/she may never see or know his/her father.
I know i am way ahead of my time to be talking beebees but, my "what if" thougth process was turned on while he was out of town on business. i do worry for our future and for the future of our child. Is there any advice you can give me?
Hows does your DH balance such a hectic workload and still have time for your and the children?