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DH thinking of joining air national guard......

anyone air national guard??? i am so lost with the whole military thing. Is boot camp same for all branches of the military?? im so scared dh would die, first off cause im paranoid second cause he is pretty small. And is it really 6 whole weeks!!!!! i would die, and he would be reserve so i dont know what his chances of deployment are, we had a friend in ang and he did the last 6 years with no tours at all. Any advice would be great just gonna lurk till a decision is made, but anything would be appreciated

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Re: DH thinking of joining air national guard......

  • The air national guard is actually a really wise life decision, actually... I have a lot of friends (I live on an Air Force Base) that are air guard, and they love it.  From what I hear, they rarely deploy (nothing like army) unless they volunteer to go, they get a nice $500-600/month for ONE weekend's work, which is actually just training to keep up to date in case they do need to go.  The member and family gets access to base benefits (BX, commissary, etc) and a lot of military discounts, discounts on health insurance, and other benefits (you can see a full list online... http://www.goang.com/).  Plus, you can pretty much live a normal civilian life (just with the extra benefits/pay with the chance of him deploying)...

    Not sure if basic training ("boot camp") is the same for every branch... But I know air national guard and Air Force are the same and my DH is in it right now... It's actually 8 weeks long now (they changed from 6 to 8 weeks in Nov 2008), and is really hard for them...  Tomorrow starts week 4 for us and I've gotten one letter and one 4-minute phone call... so it is hard... but the sacrifice is definitely worth it for your future! 

     Any other questions, just let me know and I'll try to find out for you.  Good luck!

  •  im so scared dh would die, first off cause im paranoid second cause he is pretty small.realistically, less than 1% of soldiers are hurt or killed in action. you have more chances getting hurt driving a car.

    And is it really 6 whole weeks!!!!! i would die, no, no you wont. sorry to be snarky, but there are families here that are in the middle of 15 MONTH deployments (60 weeks). You will be just fine.



  • the whole i would die for 6 weeks thing is only cause we just got 3 kids under the age of 2. and we are finalizing adoption in the next 5-6 months. I totally am aware of the people who sacrifice time with their family for months on a tour. i just dont know what i would do for that long with 3 alone!!!

     

    and the thing bout dh dying was for boot camp, i dont know how he would do:)

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    TTC since 2005
    missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles-
    3 failed femara iui cycles-
    moving on to IVF oct 2011
    ER nov. 7th
    tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10
    lots of +hpt!!
    beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4
    beta #2 on11/23= 90.8
    another miscarriage 12/23
    moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx
    ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs
    ET 4/28 3 transfered
    Beta #1- 356
    Beta #2- 870



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  • My FI is also thinking of joining the Air Nat Guard too.  I was wondering the same things you were.  Im glad you posted and I was able to vicariously get my questions answered. 
  • Wow... 3 kids under the age of 2 would be tough... Do you have a job you'd have to juggle around as well?  It would make things easier if you didn't, but not everyone can do that financially... Good luck either way ;-) 

     Also, ask a recruiter what options you have for the family while your dh is in basic or on deployments.  It may be different mine being AD (active duty) and yours being reserves (though highly doubtful that's it's different, we both have the same access to the same places), but the Air force has really been here for families--they offer nights out with free childcare (nights out meaning if you go to their event *chuckles*), you can get in touch and hang out with other spouses of deployed families (who I've seen team up, so to speak, and take turns watching each others' kids for free) and of course there are TONS of activities for kids (watch a base paper for upcoming events).  Getting involved helps fill the days, keep the little ones busy, find friends and make time go by faster.  :-)

  • My DH has 5 cousins in the air national guard (they are all siblings).  The longest deployment any of them have had was 3 months, and none have been in a real war zone.  One just got back from 3 mos in Korea.  Most of what they do is voluntary (the entire unit doesn't deploy, just those who want the experience/money). 

     My DH was actually air national guard for a few months, but he also had prior service so he had done basic years before he joined ANG.  Now he switched to Army NG and is in flight school.  If you have any more specific questions I can ask him!

     If you think it will be difficult for you and your children with your DH being gone, I would definitely think really hard about the decision to join any branch of the military.  The reality is that he WILL have to be gone, not only for basic, but for other schools after that.  Maybe not for extended periods of time (ANG deployments are generally 3 months max) but still he will be gone here and there for trainings, one weekend a month for drill, and I believe ANG does 2 weeks every summer as well.  All of this adds up.  It will be a lifestyle change!

  • I was in the ANG for almost 10 years, before we moved to the UK and I had to transfer to the Reserves.

    The important thing to remember about deployment is that it really depends on the career field he chooses, and to a lesser degree the base he is assigned to. It's possible to go through a 6 year enlistment without deploying, but I certainly wouldn't base my decision on it. In some career fields, it's really not optional. I am Security Forces, and I have been deployed 6 times in the 10 years I was Guard. There is no guarantee that he will not deploy, and there is NO WAY to predict how long it will be. I've been deployed for 4 months, and I've been deployed for 1 year. There's no official "average" on deployments. He goes where they send him, for as long as they send him and he gets very little say in the matter.  

    Also, keep in mind that he'll be starting at a fairly low rank, so the money is not going to be spectacular for his weekend duty. I generally cleared about 250-300 for a weekend, after they taxed it and took out my life insurance and spouse insurance. And I'm an E5. Your DH will be no higher than an E3 unless he has prior service.

    My advice is to make sure that BOTH of you ask questions of the recruiter and the ladies on this board, and make the decision together. It's a great opportunity, but it will affect your family and it's critical that you both go into this informed.

     

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