I posted mid-January asking for advice on meeting Fi's daughter for the first time. Things actually went very, very well. By the end of the week, she actually hugged me when it was time to say good bye. We kept busy during the visit- museums, the national aquarium, snow tubing, etc- so there wasn't much pressure for constant conversation and being stuck in a house staring at each other. I am much more optimistic now about the situation, and looking forward to this summer when she comes to visit. Thanks again for the advice from everyone.