Me & my husband have been together for 7 years, married for 3. On monday 1/12/09 he found out that he probably has a 10 year old daughter. He ran into the mom in a gas station & she told him that her daughter is not her ex husband's. She told her now ex-husband (boyfriend at the time) that she was his kid & he had no reason to doubt it. So he raised her for 6 years, but then when they divorced he wanted paternity tests for all 3 of the kids & it turned out she wasn't his child.
We ordered a paternity test, but results aren't in yet.
We got a few pictures of her & she looks just like him & his sister when they were that age. So we are pretty sure she is his kid. He & this woman never had a relationship, they had sex maybe 3 times. She doesn't want child support & is not demanding. If anything she is sorry for disrupting our lives. I like kids but never wanted to have a baby. I don't like the idea of being pregnant, no sleep, puke & poop & crying. But the idea of a 10 year old is exciting b/c I'm a big kid myself. I am so scared! I don't have any experience with kids, I'm an only child & I not many of my friends have kids. I'm so scared to mess up, or have her hate me. Please list any advise you have. All is welcome!
Test results came back last night. We now have a 10 year old daughter/step-daughter. We both want to dive in & get to know her, but I'm afraid of comming on too strong. I think he's scared too. The DD is really happy to now know the truth. Any advise for a new blended family?