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My sister just graduated a few days ago and her fiancee just graduated from basic i would like some good advice for her .

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  • regarding anything in particular?
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  • Tell her to have an open mind and be flexible.  Attitude is everything.  
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  • She graduated from?? HS? College? Basic?

     Advice in general:

    Bring a pad of paper and pen with you for the 6 months. Fellow military families will be filling your head with resources, tips, good/bad service providers. Write down the stuff you like. 

    Take it one day at a time - even when it feels like "hurry up and wait" might never get to the wait part. Figure out what NEEDS to be done and do it - the rest CAN wait. 

    Love the person you marry not what they do. Do not define yourself by your service members accomplishments (or lack there of). You celebrate THEIR accomplishments. You motivate THEM to keep going ---> and they should reciprocate (even if your biggest accomplishment that day was pooping without three kids screaming your name or killing each other).

    Learn how to cook ONE dish, REALLY REALLY REALLY well. Why? Make it your "new home" dish. Your "last night before deployment" dish. Your "WHAT DO YOU MEAN THE 1SG IS COMING OVER FOR DINNER IN AN HOUR" dish. It sounds very 1950's but trust me even if your "dish" is dirty martinis it will come in handy. 

     Whenever the love of your life is "away" for a duration of longer than 3 weeks you are authorized 24-72 hours of pity party. ((I just completed mine)). Eat ice cream, drink a bottle (or 2) of wine... watch stupid movies or DVRs then SUCK IT UP. Get off your butt and get back to it. Which leads me to my last bit of advice...

    Last but not least. LIVE. You cannot predict tomorrow. You cannot count on orders. You can't guarantee they will come home the way they left... or at all. So LIVE. Go see things. Do things. If it looks interesting try it out. If you like to dance and he doesn't ---> go dancing. Do not sit by waiting for tomorrow to come. Greet it, enjoy it and thrive.

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    She graduated from?? HS? College? Basic?

     Advice in general:

    Bring a pad of paper and pen with you for the 6 months. Fellow military families will be filling your head with resources, tips, good/bad service providers. Write down the stuff you like. 

    Take it one day at a time - even when it feels like "hurry up and wait" might never get to the wait part. Figure out what NEEDS to be done and do it - the rest CAN wait. 

    Love the person you marry not what they do. Do not define yourself by your service members accomplishments (or lack there of). You celebrate THEIR accomplishments. You motivate THEM to keep going ---> and they should reciprocate (even if your biggest accomplishment that day was pooping without three kids screaming your name or killing each other).

    Learn how to cook ONE dish, REALLY REALLY REALLY well. Why? Make it your "new home" dish. Your "last night before deployment" dish. Your "WHAT DO YOU MEAN THE 1SG IS COMING OVER FOR DINNER IN AN HOUR" dish. It sounds very 1950's but trust me even if your "dish" is dirty martinis it will come in handy. 

     Whenever the love of your life is "away" for a duration of longer than 3 weeks you are authorized 24-72 hours of pity party. ((I just completed mine)). Eat ice cream, drink a bottle (or 2) of wine... watch stupid movies or DVRs then SUCK IT UP. Get off your butt and get back to it. Which leads me to my last bit of advice...

    Last but not least. LIVE. You cannot predict tomorrow. You cannot count on orders. You can't guarantee they will come home the way they left... or at all. So LIVE. Go see things. Do things. If it looks interesting try it out. If you like to dance and he doesn't ---> go dancing. Do not sit by waiting for tomorrow to come. Greet it, enjoy it and thrive.

     ILY

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  • That advice was beautiful!
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