Hello - I do know that this topic has been brought up again and again - I just was hoping to get some advice more specific to my problem.
My husband and I have been married for seven months after dating for three years. We've never had a crazy sex life, but fairly decent. In the past year and a half, I have not once had an orgasm during sex.
In the past year or so he never wants to have sex.
One time, I put on sexy lingerie and came to greet him in the living room and he literally yelled at me to put my clothes back on. He often rejects my advances.
After doing a lot of reading yesterday, I decided to ask him about it.
He told me that he feels that he's not good enough for me in bed so and, "If I'm not good at something you know that I just don't do it."
We've talked about our sex life many times before - always out of the bedroom and in a non-confrontational way. We tried to address the orgasm thing - I asked for foreplay, for him to want to help me enjoy myself. Nothing has changed.
I just cried and cried after we talked. Is this my marriage? He's been thinking this for some time but didn't tell me. I tell him everything. He told me the night before that he's been pushing me away because he thinks im going to cheat on him - I am devoted to him! There's nothing I've done to make him feel this way!
He said he's trying to protect himself - I always think of us as "We" -
Any advice is greatly appreciated.