Ok, so DH and I are TTC and as a mtter of fact we might be very well pregnant already (will test this wknd, cross fingers). Anyway, last week we were discussing who to tell if we are in fact pg, I mentioned my parents for sure and some really close friends (who also happen to be pg right now) at least until the first trimester is over (you know anything can happen). DH said it would be selfish not to tell his mom but tell my parents, and although I get his point I still dont want her know right away! The reason behind all this is that our relationship is not the best, she has been rude over the years, has even mentioned that I don't bring anything to the table bc I'm still in school (Medical School that is!), worries that I don't want to give her son children bc of my career (completely false obviously since we are ttc!), won't 'respect' me as a professional until I'm a Doc (considering I have a Master's degree...and she didn't even go to college!), anyway the list goes on.
DH is very supportive and very aware that his mom is psycho and completely out of line, has confronted her many times about the issue and things seem to be better for a little while but in the end I always get stabbed in the back again.
So, is it irrational for me to want to keep my pg a secret from his family until the 12 wk mark? I have the feeling that we wouldn't get honest/sincere support and happy thoughts from his family and this is a very big deal for us (first baby)!
ps: the conversation with DH ended bc we where in the car and haven't talked about it since, so I'm not sure if he got my pov or not.