Lately I've been struggling with my relationship with my MIL and in-laws in general. My husband's family is very close. They all work for the family business (except me) and my husband and I live next door to his parents on the business property. I've always done my part and have attended every birthday, holiday and much more with his family. We even do "family lunch" on Wednesdays and my mother in law usually guilts us all into going to a movie with her almost every Tuesday. I know my MIL means well, and it's probably only because she does truly like me, but she constantly wants to spend time with me. The feeling is not reciprocated. Although she is a good person at heart, she and I have had our issues, and more often than not, she has something negative to say to me or compares me to her "perfect" daughter. I often leave our meetings feeling down in myself. I don't mind being close to my husband's family...to an extent. I've found that since we moved in next door (about 5 years ago) my relationship started to change with his family. I feel like I'm in a fishbowl for their viewing. Nothing is private. I feel trapped. If my MIL sees my car outside, she constantly calls or stops by wanting me to do things with her. The thing is, I don't want to be that close to her. I don't want to be good friends with her. I don't want to see her every single day. I don't mind having a friendly relationship with her, but I don't want to be her best friend. IMO, she has 2 daughters to take on that job but none of her 3 children will spend time her, her husband is always working or wants to sit on the couch all day, and she doesn't have any friends. For some reason, it seems like I'M the one who is expected to entertain her at these times. I've tried to express my frustrations about this with my husband but all he says is that "she just likes you and wants to spend more time with you". Call me selfish, but I feel like I've given her plenty of my time and I don't want to give any more. What I'm trying to express is that I am fully willing to put my time in for family events such as birthdays, holidays, and even the Wednesday "family lunch". But how much more of my time am I expected to give to my in-laws? Right now I see them at least 3 times a week which is much much more than I ever even see my own family who live in the same town. Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to be closer to my MIL? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!