I love my husband very much. We've known each other for over 40 years & hung out with one another, he was married at one point in time & has one son & i was also married & have two kids. We've always bumped into each other & i've always invited in over for a BBQ but nothing ever became of it. Then one day we became more then friends & moved in with each other & 2 yrs later married. I'm not going to stick up for him but he has gotten hurt & tore his rotator cuff & our sex lives have gone so far downhill I dont' think we see the top anymore. No work either & we've been under alot of stress for the past few years. We tried to get close to each other by laying in bed together & holding each other, but nothing happened, no spark or anything. It's almost like we are afraid to touch each other. He is a very good man, helps out around the house alot, does shopping, laundry, even cleans the bathroom, always says goodnite & that he loves me & he does say he's sorry that our sex life has gone down to nothing. But when we go to bed we just go to bed, not even holding each other or any connection. i dont' know what to do?? we are very low on money because of the economy so we can't go out to eat or to the movies, which i think would help out alot. what can i do??? please help..