On a previous thread I mentioned that I strive to submit to my husband as a Christian women. I got a lot of negative feed back so I wanted to explain what the word submit means to a Christian wife. There is a stereotype that surrounds Christian marriage that I believe to be very wrong and a poor judgment. Everything here is what my husband and I believe to be truth and is how we live our marriage. I have no issues answering any questions. This OP is not however me telling anyone else how their marriages should be or what their beliefs should or shouldn't be. I am simply try to clear up some misunderstandings on our faith.
Biblical marriage from a Christian perspective is that men and women were created equally in God's image. We are equal in the eyes of God but have separate roles in this life and very different needs and characteristics as men and women. Biblically the man is placed in a role of being the head provider and spiritual leader of the home. The women is placed next to the man to be a helper and work with him as a team. Biblical marriage is not a dictatorship men are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church, and as we know Christ died a horrible death on a cross for the church. Being a husband is not a role to be taken lightly or easy to fill they are held to a high standard by God even giving up his own life for his wife if needed. A husband is not called to be abusive to his wife or muffle her voice they are called to work together hearing both opinions. A women is called to respect her husband and his choices but this is only if they can not come to an agreement together first.
Biblical marriage does not mean that the women should be at home cooking and cleaning with a baby on her hip either. God takes into account different families and different situations. Even women in the Bible worked for their families and brought in money for support. If a man isn't the main bread winner that doesn't necessarily mean he isn't providing or leading his home in other ways. Financial is not the only way to provide but it seems to be the one we get caught up on the most. But to not provide at all in any way is not an option scripture is clear that a man who does not take care of, lead, or teach his family is worse than an unbeliever. A father needs to be there for his children and for his wife.
People often think that if a women is submitting to a man in marriage he has the right to walk all over her and abuse her. That men are catered to as Gods and can do whatever they want with their families but that is not correct at all. It is the opposite in practice men are called to be supportive, loving, and loyal placing nothing above his wife and family except God himself.
This is an article that I believe explains our position on Biblical marriage very well if you are interested in reading it....